Archive for March, 2013

Ray was right, Nancy thought as she walked slowly back to the table. There was a time to stop
following the patterns of yesterday -a time to stop remembering and look only to the future. She
knew that a part of her was still frozen. She knew that the mind dropped a protective curtain over
painful memories – but it was more than that.

Seven years, Nancy thought. Life was a series of seven-year cycles. Carl used to say that your
whole body changed in that time. Every cell renewed itself. It was time for her to really look ahead
… to forget.  She glanced around the large, cheerful kitchen with the old brick fireplace, the wide oak floors,
the red curtains and valances that didn’t obstruct the view over the harbour. And then she looked at
Michael and Missy . . .

She’d fled here, completely across the continent – as far away from California as she could get; as
far away from the people she’d known and the place she’d lived and the college and the whole
academic community there. She never wanted to see them again -the friends who had turned out
not to be friends but hostile strangers who spoke of ‘poor Carl’ because they blamed his suicide on
her too.

She’d come to Cape Cod because she’d always heard that New Englanders and Cape people were
reticent and reserved and wanted nothing to do with strangers, and that was good. She needed a
place to hide, to find herself, to sort it all out, to try to think through what had happened, to try to
come back to life.

She’d cut her hair and dyed it sable brown, and that was enough to make her look completely
different from the pictures that had front-paged newspapers all over the country during the trial.

That first morning here, she’d made coffee and sat by the window. It had been a clear, brilliant  day – the cloudless sky purple-blue; the bay tranquil and still; the only movement the arc of sea  gulls hovering near the fishing boats.  With her fingers wrapped around the coffee cup, she’d sipped and watched. The warmth of the coffee had flowed through her body. The sunbeams had warmed her face. The tranquillity of the  scene enhanced the calming sense of peace that the long, dreamless sleep had begun.   Peace . . . give me peace. That had been her prayer during the trial; in prison. Let me learn to  accept. Seven years ago . . .   Nancy sighed, realizing that she was still standing by the bottom step of the staircase. It was so  easy to get lost in remembering. That was why she tried so hard to live each day . . . not look back  or into the future.

Begun as a hobby, it had become an absorbing daily activity. A publisher friend had read a few  chapters of it one week-end and promptly sent him a contract. The book was a case study of  famous murder trials. Jonathan worked on it five hours every day, seven days a week, starting  promptly at nine-thirty in the morning. The wind bit against him. He pulled out his muffler, grateful for the watery sunshine he felt on  his face as he glanced in the direction of the bay.

It was timing. The whole universe existed because of split-second timing. ……….

To willingly leave yourself open to failure -to tightrope-walk across  a dozen pits so that when the act was accomplished no one even glanced in your direction -that
was the way.


christie – master in the art of understanding human nature……

Parisian Cowgirl

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to be real is to be true to yourself….be urself


It doesn’t happen all at once, said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. …Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.

~  from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

They’re Real and They’re Spectacular

Let’s have a Phoenix Rising from the Ashes Party, says my friend *Desiree.  She and I are newly divorced and drinking in life with open eyes and resilient hearts. We’ve moved through scared sadness and arrived at celebratory exploration. What’s out there for us now that we are conscious of our own happiness and choices?  What’s out there now that we are so very real?

I’m in…

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E from brainpickings

  •         Permit yourself to flow and overflow, allow for the rise in temperature, all the expansions and intensifications. Something is always born of excess: great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them. If it seems to you that I move in a world of certitudes, you, par contre, must benefit from the great privilege of youth, which is that you move in a world of mysteries. But both must be ruled by faith.

  •        Educators do all in their power to prepare you to enjoy reading after college. It is right that you should read according to your temperament, occupations, hobbies, and vocations. But it is a sign of great inner insecurity to be hostile to the unfamiliar, unwilling to explore the unfamiliar. In science, we respect the research worker. In literature, we should not always read the books blessed by the majority. This trend is reflected in such absurd announcements as “the death of the novel,” “the last of the romantics,” “the last of the Bohemians,” when we know that these are continuous trends which evolve and merely change form. The suppression of inner patterns in favor of patterns created by society is dangerous to us. Artistic revolt, innovation, experiment should not be met with hostility. They may disturb an established order or an artificial conventionality, but they may rescue us from death in life, from robot life, from boredom, from loss of the self, from enslavement.

  •  –    on the Dangers of the Internet (1946)    Even more interesting than the striking similarity between what Nin admonishes against and the present dynamics of the internet is the fact that she essentially describes Marshall McLuhan’s seminal concept of the global village… a decade and a half before he coined it.

    The secret of a full life is to live and relate to others as if they might not be there tomorrow, as if you might not be there tomorrow. It eliminates the vice of procrastination, the sin of postponement, failed communications, failed communions. This thought has made me more and more attentive to all encounters. meetings, introductions, which might contain the seed of depth that might be carelessly overlooked. This feeling has become a rarity, and rarer every day now that we have reached a hastier and more superficial rhythm, now that we believe we are in touch with a greater amount of people, more people, more countries. This is the illusion which might cheat us of being in touch deeply with the one breathing next to us. The dangerous time when mechanical voices, radios, telephones, take the place of human intimacies, and the concept of being in touch with millions brings a greater and greater poverty in intimacy and human vision.

  • matter what your age or condition or experience, the sooner you find out what you really want to do and do it better, for that’s the only way anyone can avoid work.
  •                          Relationships seem impersonal and everyone conceals his secret life, whereas in Paris it was the exciting substance of our talks, intimate revelations and sharing of experience. People’s last concern is with intimacy. No attention is given to friendship and its development. Nothing is done to soften the harshness of life itself. There is much talk about the ‘world,’ about millions, groups, but no warmth between human beings. They persecute subjectivity, which is a sense of inner life; an individual’s concern with growth and self-development is frowned upon. The ivory tower of the artist may be the only stronghold left for human values, cultural treasures, man’s cult of beauty.

architecture and other links        –  a residential treehouse community in its formative years in the south Pacific coastal region of Costa Rica – assist communities throughout Latin America in regenerating rainforest assets and restoring native habitats to encourage healthier lifestyles, economies and opportunities. applying remedies to some of the most pressing ecological and social maladies impacting the Southern Zone of Costa Rica ………….

Our mission is to assist communities throughout Latin America in regenerating rainforest assets and restoring native habitats to encourage healthier lifestyles, economies and opportunities.    – Free educational media , interesting articles/videos  on psychology literature etc.

gr8  vintage site –

another gud collection –

retro   –   Alvar Aalto         –  site featuring architects – classic and contemporary ……..found most of the designs  representing the  funcionalist ideology

Excerpt    from  –     the complicated behavior we call multitasking is just doing many things poorly, and none of them well.

the pace of modern life, increased and supported by our technology in general and our personal electronics in particular, has resulted in a short attention span and an addiction to the influx of information. A mind so conditioned has little opportunity to think critically, and even less chance to experience life deeply by being in the present moment. A complex life with complicated activities, relationships and commitments implies a reflexive busy-ness that supplants true thinking and feeling with knee-jerk reactions. It is a life high in stress and light on substance, at least in the spiritually meaningful dimensions of being.

Are you aware that your life has become too complicated? Are you always rushing to catch up? Do you find yourself doing so many things at once that you barely remember the day, barely recall what you’ve accomplished, don’t remember thinking hard or feeling anything especially keenly? Do you feel you are stressed by all the “shoulds” of your life, by the countless material things you must keep track of and care for, by the endless commitments you’ve made, the formidable list of titillations you find yourself unable to ignore, the responsibilities you have shouldered in order to feel more substantial, more a contributing member of society, more an important personage? If so, it may well be time to simplify your life.

Start with the easy part. Attack your garage, your closet, those kitchen drawers in which you dump everything. The number of things you call yours is likely the number of steps you are away from enlightenment, and a materially cluttered life just gives you more excuses not to think about life’s important issues because you’re too busy pottering around with your stuff. Throw things away, give them away, sell them. Thin out. Simplify your stuff.

Work on your ability to say no to invitations, suggestions, more commitments. Look hard at the reasons you’re afraid not to go to dinners and parties even when you’re tired or in the mood to stay home. Ask yourself why you think you have to be everywhere all the time, what you’re worried others might think of you, why you care so much. Remember, time spent simply and quietly, no matter what your age or station in life, can benefit you by giving you the peace and quiet you need to bring your body and mind into harmony. Simplify your schedule.

Simplicity is purity. It is facing the true nature of things and embracing it instead of ducking and weaving and dodging, instead of filling a hole inside you with chaotic activity or an overabundance of stuff. A simple wardrobe, a simple routine, a simple home, a simple lifestyle, simple, straightforward, meaningful relationships, these words describe freedom, not limitation, intensity, not distraction, focus, not mental fog, a life fully lived, not a life of lack. A simple life is a deep life.

Years ago, trend watchers began to say that less is more. Today, it’s clear that simple is simply better.


Qs and pics

As is the human body,

So is the cosmic body.

As is the human mind,

So is the cosmic mind.

As is the microcosm,

So is the macrocosm.

As is the atom,

So is the universe.

“Upanishads  (Ancient Sanskrit Hindu Scriptures)

“I am invisible, understand, simply because people refuse to see me. Like the bodiless heads you see sometimes in circus sideshows, it is as though I have been surrounded by mirrors of hard, distorting glass. When they approach me they see only my surroundings, themselves or figments of their imagination, indeed, everything and anything except me.” – Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man

Whenever you think or you believe or you know, you’re a lot of other people: but the moment you feel, you’re nobody-but-yourself.” E.E. Cummings

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose.”Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 

“For each of us deserve everything, every luxury that was ever piled in the tombs of the dead, and we each of us deserve nothing, not a mouthful of bread in hunger.”Ursula K. Le Guin

genesisthegreykid:discover something impossible… from: 

The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls.”Pablo Picasso


wethinkwedream:but wait this is true


“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”  Rick Warren

was thinking of how a good ost can make all the difference to a  thriller – movie or tv show………..and you get to know artists you’ve never heard before, not only indie films………which have an excellent combo of gr8 story+indie artists……….especially world cinema – french thriller with a few retro english artists  thrown in the background for example  (though the japanese /korean  filmmakers rely on their soulful instrumental stuff for all genres  )…….is all that it takes  to set the tone required …………haunting or dark or just a subdued piece in the background  or simply  the music to go for a sleek tv show……………….the right  potpourri – musical and plot ingredients will turn it into a    ……… killer thriller

attended the Neurochoreography lecture yesterday and down with sunstroke…………….but ’twas  well worth it……… of a kind and a lot to learn – both – from the subject and the speaker as well .

Excerpts from the presentation –

series  of lectures + 7 dance numbers ………. not boring at all , …… the main dancer explained in her introduction  , since it was an experimental  theme……..the focus would not entirely be on core classical bharatanatyam………….so there were ballet splits………. an acrobatic- type dance to show one of the neuronal themes…….western instrumental music accompanying indian classical dance- overall a visual /auditory…… , a total aesthetic treat .

The best part to me , was the speaker …….an eminent neurosurgeon …………………but what strikes one immediately   is the stark simplicity of the man –  in  his  dressing ( when will  i learn ????????????  i doubt in this lifetime )……….blending into the audience  really and his unassuming demeanor …………you realize  the dancer was not exaggerating  when she described him – as ” so simple, humble and modest “………………..  a rare breed . He took the lecture from science to arts …… blending them and ended  with – spirituality.

  • first was an introduction – parts of brain – lobes etc. brain states are body states
  • neurophilosophy/neuroaesthetics – dance of the brain
  • we automatically tap our feet to the music
  • PET scans of the brain reveal inner choreography
  • every proton/atom in the brain undergoes the dance of creation- destruction………………….(.i luved  this  metaphor- all life is but  a dance of creation and destruction……….and beyond ………)
  • The BODY MANDALA –  the space surrounding the movements of the body – when dancing –PERIPERSONAL SPACE
  • body schema – dance moves at unconscious level – gracefully
  • kinetic – one performs movements in brain virtually
  • ingredients of dance
  1. rhythm
  2. coordination
  3. balance
  4. multisensory integration
  5. emotions – amygdala
  6. motor activation

Ended with a beautiful definition of dance  – something like – quadri……….quintessential………….should luk it up.

Last but definitely not the least  ……………. his   correlation between- mind -body -spirit……………lllluved the way he put in words – pure  literary treat ” natya shastra to veda …..from veda to yoga …………shiva the dancer – in the nataraja pose- explained by a pic

he controls the demons /negativities with his foot , at the same time balancing and maintaining a graceful posture………to have balance in thought , word and deed………and an undisturbed serenity/tranquility in his face – the ultimate goal of   life ..from ananda to anantha ……… if  dancing in bliss to the divine dance……….will help us reach the tao of lao …….the zen of zenith…… the nirvana of the buddha  …………

intercepted with quotes by poets and neurologists……..wordsworth, oliver sacks etc.

heard m.s’ s  madhurashtakam used in one of the pieces…….

everything is interconnected now ……….  arts-science-spirituality……mind-body-spirit

reflected by wordsworth’s quote in the lecture “ And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.   ( )

events in march  – 3rd , 17th ,   10th and 24th .

Happy Birthday, Agnes Martin: The Iconic Painter on Art, Solitude, and the Secret of Happiness


“Doing what you were born to do … That’s the way to be happy.”

Martin makes a case for finding your purpose and doing what you love:There are so many people who don’t know what they want. And I think that, in this world, that’s the only thing you have to know — exactly what you want. … Doing what you were born to do … That’s the way to be happy.

Adding to history’s famous definitions of art and echoing Susan Sontag on music, Martin observes:

Art is responded to with emotion … and the best art is music — that’s the highest form of art. It’s completely abstract, and we make about eight times as much response to music than any of the other arts.

She admonishes against the egocentricity of the artist:

The worst thing you can think about when you’re working is yourself.

Seconding Maira Kalman on the value of the empty brain, Martin professes:

I’m an empty mind. When something comes into it, you can see it.

She echoes Hemingway’s insistence on solitude:

The best things in life happen to you when you’re alone. – love

The greatest satisfaction you can obtain from life is your pleasure in producing, in your own individual way, something of value to your fellowmen. That is creative living!

Actually, there is only one way in this world to achieve true happiness, and that is to express yourself with all your skill and enthusiasm in a career that appeals to you more than any other. In such a career, you feel a sense of purpose, a sense of achievement. You feel you are making a contribution. It is not work.

No matter what your age or condition or experience, the sooner you find out what you really want to do and do it better, for that’s the only way anyone can avoid work.

zen habits

excerpt from     

How to Implement Daily Changes

This method is fairly simple, and if you really implement it, nearly foolproof:

  1. One Change at a Time.
  2. Start Small. OK, I’ve said this two bajillion times. No one ever does it, though. Start with 10 minutes or less. Five minutes is better if it’s a hard change. If you fail at that, drop it to 2 minutes.
  3. Do it at the same time each day.
  4. Make a huge commitment to someone.
  5. Be accountable.
  6. Have consequences.
  7. Enjoy the change.


The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
– Rumi

Wounding and healing are not opposites. They’re part of the same thing.
It is our wounds that enable us to be compassionate with the wounds of others.
It is our limitations that make us kind to the limitations of other people.
It is our loneliness that helps us to to find other people or to even
know they’re alone with an illness.
― Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.




Jakob Wagner is a photographer from Herdecke, Germany. After completing a three-year apprenticeship, Jakob has been living in Dusseldorf as a freelance photographer, image editor and photo assistant. When he’s not on assignment, he devotes much of his time and passion to his personal photography projects that will eventually culminate in future books and exhibitions. Much of his work centers around aerial photography as well as nightscape, landscape and cityscape photography.

In this series, entitled Sea of Clouds, Wagner took aerial photographs above the Mediterranean Sea. You can see the entire series along with many other amazing projects at his official website You can also find an extensive portfolio of his work on Behance. For signed and limited edition prints, please contact Jakob direct.



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